Backtrack a year & half ago, before I became a love coach.
It was shocking to me when I got into online dating, many men were just looking for casual hookups.
It didn’t really matter what they “claimed“ they were looking for on their dating profiles.
They wanted intimacy even before dating exclusively.
One of my friends warned me, she said, “Be ready to share intimacy by date 3, the latest!”
I answered, “That’s not happening.”
I was thinking, “Who sets these rules?!‘’ Shouldn’t intimacy be something that you share with the other person beautifully through heart/soul connection? It should be a gift, not a demand.”
Perhaps I was naive.
How did I survive this expectation?
By staying self-aligned.
Don’t get me wrong, people can do what they wish in dating, no judgement there.
It’s just not for me.
I remember I encountered two men I thought I really liked.
One said:
“I will meet you at a hotel” as he proposed for the location of our second date.
I cancelled the date.
The other gave me the “I want your s•x” talk.
He said: “I don’t know how to know a woman without sleeping with her!”
My response. “Sorry, I don’t think we are a good fit.”
Be self-aligned to who you are.
And this doesn’t just apply in dating.
Agree?
～ Love you more ❤️
Kolline