My wife….
My wife….
I was on a consultant call the other day.
The man..
54 year old
Working in hospitality industry
Told me that..
He-
No longer
Trusts women
Ever since-
Five years ago..
When he lost his family
As his wife
At the time…
Slept with his boss
And that…
He didn’t know
How long it took place
As-
He found out.
When-
She emptied the house
In one day-
Took his two year old daughter-
With her
And left him
Forever….
“I was working long hours to support the family.” He recalled.
And when he came home..
That night…
He realized-
He’d lost his family,
His wife,
And..
His daughter..
He felt betrayed.
He felt life was not fair.
He felt clueless.
He felt lost.
Since then..
He became a player in dating..
He doesn’t commit
To any woman
As he’s lost trust in all women
And…
Most importantly..
He has lost trust in himself
His judgment..
His decision making…
I felt the anger & resentment in his voice.
But-
He wouldn’t have called if he didn’t want to seek advice
Or
If he didn’t still believe in love
But…
He has…
Fear of love
Fear of abandonment
Fear of rejection
Fear of mistrust
“Have you forgiven her?” I knew the answer.
He answered..
“No, she broke my family.”
“She took my daughter!”
He’s still in pain.
Holding onto his past.
Hoping to seek justice.
Looking in the rear-view mirror..
He refuses to rewrite his story.
For a better future or love life..
By not forgiving his ex wife…
It prevents him to be happy…
To move forward..
Thus..
I shared a few definitions of forgiveness..
▫️Forgiveness is done for your own wellbeing, peace, serenity and sanity, not for others.
▫️ Forgiveness doesn’t mean you forget or make others’ wrongdoing okay. It means you accept what happened fully so you can start healing and move on.
▫️Forgiveness is to be empowered and to renew a new sense of commitment and love toward your own self.
We ought to forgive ourselves first in order to forgive others.
We ought to love ourselves first in order to love others.
Let go of what no longer serves us.
Agree?
～ Love you more ❤️
Kolline