The world is constantly evolving and people adapt and change based on their circumstances or situations to improve themselves.
In dating, when you are looking for your potential “lifetime partner”, keep in mind that she should already come with the qualities or traits that you value.
The challenge in today’s dating world, or even in committed relationships/marriages is that people tend to WISH/HOPE that they can change their partner to better their relationship. In order to maximize the success of any potential relationship with a woman you’re dating, the following two key concepts are integral to consider:
1) She does not need to complement 100% of the qualities that are important to you. For example, if getting married, having kids, or respecting your friends or family is important to you, she does not need to encompass 100% of this. Whatever you decide is important to you, if she can embody 80% of what you are looking for, then she has the potential to grow with you.
2) The remaining 20% should be determined based on her “mindset” and “openness” to “adapt” to future events to stay committed. If she is someone with a fixed mindset, most likely, you will have a hard time getting her on board to go along with you on any unpredictable thing that life may throw at you. Therefore, it is important to weigh in on how willing she is to adapt to the potential changes in life to ensure you have a partner who is genuinely supportive of you to keep both of your goals in mind in the long run.
Have you tried to change your exes in your past relationships? How did that turn out?
～ Love you more ❤️
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